You make me happy, well... not really

Is my happiness so intimately bound in your affection toward me, that in its absence I feel unhappy?

When a woman looks to a man to make her feel complete, her happiness is contingent on him fulfilling that expectation. When he doesn’t (as so often occurs in real life) it means she will usually remain unhappy, until she finds someone else who is able to offer her the love she is looking for. To her dismay, her search might always turn up empty. Often in our pursuit of happiness, in our mad dash to find love, we overlook the most fundamental source of happiness ─our own. For a woman, happiness is not found in his reflection, sexual escapades or fly by night intimacy; it is what stares back at you each morning when you look in the mirror. You are the catalyst that will start the fire that leads to your own personal and emotional awakening. Loving yourself is a journey of self-discovery that requires patience, periods of reflection and moments of introspection.


It begins with you affirming yourself daily, making sure you know before anyone else tells you, that you are beautiful and deserving of the rewards life brings. It requires some poking and prodding at that inner you, possibly reflecting on some painful experiences of your past that have left you today feeling insecure, inadequate and discouraged. In no way, am I suggesting this journey will be easy, and truthfully it’s not, but it is worth the try. I guarantee the happiness you are searching for will be found. It begins with you. If you will, think of yourself in terms of the market economy, you are the product, how will you pitch yourself? The best sales people are the ones, who believe in the value and quality of their product. When you start believing you are worth the purchase so will everyone else.


And remember, when a man makes you feel appreciated, it is not because of something particular that you have done to occasion good treatment, it is what you deserve! Your happiness belongs to you.


NDG #love