Wow ...so tonight I was reminded why I VALUE my independence. The hardships that often shape independence are not always pretty, but I marvel at how resilient and determined some people become out of adversity. I mean it can be threatening to some especially when a woman for example is so independent, that a man can't even find a safe space to reside in her life. That's when it might become scary. But, don't assume independence is all bad, sure it might appear a little threatening at first, but a woman who can hold her own, is very appealing.
I'm happy that I learned this very early, I am also happy that I have never been one to jump every time a man offers to do something nice for me.
Ladies, EVERYTHING in life comes at a price, so if he's offering to pay your rent, and your tuition and your phonebill all at the same time it may be too good to be true. One of the most fulfilling things in life for me will be to say that everything I have, I bought on my own, and if there was help it was used to compliment my income not subsidize.
So not to further an unnecessary personal attack, lol for the losers who think they can buy my time, you are terribly mistaken. But lovin'the MK sucka!
Nicci you cold sometimes.....LOL! On the real, being independent is an amazing thing and all women should practice it. In regards to a man not being able find a safe space in an independent woman's life, if he wants a safe space he needs to go to his momma with that. Im trying to build with someone. Safe turns into comfortable, comfortable turns into complacency and complacency will end a relationship. Independent women are progressive women who are always striving to achieve their many goals. Of course you want a man to be apart of your journey, but I want an independent man who doesn't ever look at independence as a issue. A man who think a woman's independency as a problem has his own insecurities he's trying to pass off to you.
ReplyDeleteI love it Mama! Honest and insightful. Toasting all the independent women across the globe!
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