Run for cover...

Today I share a diatribe about human relations aka MEN...SURPRISE SURPRISE....

I begin with a small confession; I too am guilty of what I am about to critique, but in my defense people dont usually take note of an offense when they are the perpetrator, only when they become the victim...
so YES Foxy "What a day when the tables will turn, what a day when the tables will tuuurn "

Recently, I was fed my humble pie... I really liked someone, whom months before I was not sure how I felt about. I guess because I was afraid of totally opening myself up I decided to do what I thought was the safe approach..I hit the ground and crawled cautiously like a soldier in the trenches. Pause. who does that? In addition to that I threw a few grenades,before I even reached enemy lines. lol yea nearly blew dude up. smh

I was so afraid of being hurt, I took way more precautions then necessary to ensure my own safety, I mean who's going to watch my back if I don't? Needless to say all my "precautions" got me NO WHERE, but my car, singing "I get lonely too"...


I blew up way too many times, deleted far too many times, apologized just too many times only to blow up. AGAIN!
So the question must be asked, ok Nic why are you even upset about it, you know what you did wrong. Right?

Wrong!----------------

I'm still bothered by this experience because A. Nic never gets dumped! (sorry that was my ego talking). I am bothered because I don't give up on people I care about, and therefore expect the same in return. I could never go from caring deeply for someone today to equating them to an afterthought tomorrow. But, in the same breath if its not there its just not there. Maybe I feel miserably because it happened to me this time.

All in all, ladies, love like you've never been hurt, and live each day as if it were your last. The new person in your life should not have to pay for past hurts. A Keys says "the past is the past because we're getting past".

Peace,

NDG

Oh baby you....

Wow ...so tonight I was reminded why I VALUE my independence. The hardships that often shape independence are not always pretty, but I marvel at how resilient and determined some people become out of adversity. I mean it can be threatening to some especially when a woman for example is so independent, that a man can't even find a safe space to reside in her life. That's when it might become scary. But, don't assume independence is all bad, sure it might appear a little threatening at first, but a woman who can hold her own, is very appealing.

I'm happy that I learned this very early, I am also happy that I have never been one to jump every time a man offers to do something nice for me.

Ladies, EVERYTHING in life comes at a price, so if he's offering to pay your rent, and your tuition and your phonebill all at the same time it may be too good to be true. One of the most fulfilling things in life for me will be to say that everything I have, I bought on my own, and if there was help it was used to compliment my income not subsidize.

So not to further an unnecessary personal attack, lol for the losers who think they can buy my time, you are terribly mistaken. But lovin'the MK sucka!

Love is like the Sea

"Love is like the sea, leaves you on your knees first your floating high then it takes you under"-Alicia Keys

I'm finally beginning to understand why some people resolve to "eff luv". At first, I thought hmm maybe they've been hurt one too many times, (which still might be the case), but perhaps they've just become so exhausted like myself with trying to figure out the impossible.

Women speak in a much different language, or at least I do, and sometimes when I don't speak I expect my actions to. I admit it does require a little more patience, maybe some intuition and even a little compassion coupled with sensitivity to understand where I'm coming from. I hardly ever express my true feelings in any polished way, it usually comes out by way of some tempermental outburst. But geez read BETWEEN the lines, sometimes if a person gets to the point of becoming upset it usually suggests that they CARE!

I understand, some might say, who has time for this?, but time spent is always an indication of commitment. It builds character.

Case and point, when you attend university for example, no one really cares what your major or minor was. The fact that I minored in bioethics means little to my employer. What a university degree does say to employers however; is that you are a person commited to hard work. You have shown that you can dedicate yourself to a task and bring forth results. You are goal oriented, with a spirit of perserverance. A man who is willing to invest time in making a relationship work, translates into a man dedicated and commited to achieving results. It shows he cares about you, and is willing to take the time to get to know you for you.

My friend once told me "Rome was not built in a day Mama". I may not be the easiest person to understand, but a little patience goes a long way.

The Real.

Real recognizes real they say, but I say that we have yet to experience the real, so how might we expect it? The real is the authentic. It is the transparent. It is not fearful. Yet, my real is conscious. It recognizes when it will offend or hurt, reject or put down. So even when I strive for realness in relationships, and friendships, and expect others to be "real" to me, I understand being real may not be a fair expectation. Could I handle naked, unadulterated truth, if that truth was something that might hurt my feelings? If the real was my love that was rejected? To spare the hurt, often times we only share the real that will protect. The real that will lay you down gently. The real, that will avoid that question, that you already know the answer to, for fear of hurting too deeply. So my real may never be the authentic, it may only be the closest thing too.

Love

Love must be sincere... Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12 verses 9-11


Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God's people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you, bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another... Romans 12 verses 12-16

Taste It.

What's it all for if you don't hold on?