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Isaiah Mustafa your eyes better be trained...
This entry gives koodoo's to men across the globe who have what I like to call "trained eyes". Hands down and I write this most emphatically, there is not much in my book when dealing with the issue of disrespect that rivals a man who exercises little to no control over the gaze of his eyes, ESPECIALLY when in the company of his lady friend. When I say lady friend I mean, woman of interest, girlfriend or worse WIFE!
Don't be misled by the quams of my argument. I am not insecure, or overly territorial, nor am I contesting the nature of the gaze. It is natural. From our creator came eyes to look, to reflect, to admire. I myself am an avid "people watcher". I love to admire beauty, so this argument does not stem from some insecurity that I have with beautiful or attractive women.
I just think there is something perhaps admirable about a man that can acknowledge the presence of an attractive woman with such subtlety that it appears he has not even noticed her at all. Because, let's be real-----ALL men notice when an attractive woman walks in to a room. So, it is not a matter of if he did. The point is he did! Now what will he do with it. Unbeknowest to him, his decision to look or turn away will intimate the rules of all future engagement so it is important, the right decision is made.
To look with that longward gaze or not to look? That becomes the question...
I would be weary of the man that pretended too much not to notice, and terribly concerned by the man who took too much notice, for both are a strong indication of other deep seated issues. For one, you clearly do not have enough restraint or self control to regulate your bodily movements above the waist, how then could I trust the movements below?
And for two, which ties into one. There simply is nothing more blatant which tells of your lack of respect and utter disregard for the woman you' re with than to berate her through you're own social and relational incompetence.
Truth be told what you are really saying to the woman in your midst, is that you cannot be trusted.
Men did, you know that little to no acknowledgement of that beautiful woman that just walked into the room, silently affirms the woman you are with? It is a silent exchange of affirmation between you and her which tells her she is the only woman you see. A man that communicates to his woman publicly through subtle, non threatening gestures and body language that she is valued, also in a non terrirtorial sense marks that woman as his. That woman infused by this security carries this confidence with her where ever she goes. All this imparts trust, and leads to relationships built on a mutual understanding of each other.
My advice, for men still struggling; revert back to the wise words of your kindergarten teacher, keep not only your hands to yourself, but in this case your eyes too!
I love a man with trained eyes, though it does not tell all it reveals much about his character.
Trained eyed men, I salute you!
Smoochies,
NDG
I love a man with trained eyes, though it does not tell all it reveals much about his character.
Trained eyed men, I salute you!
Smoochies,
NDG
